Hi, I’m looking for any advice really. I have applied for a non molestation and occupation order with a hearing tomorrow.
I am representing myself.
I heard my H on phone to solicitor who recommended he get a barrister.
He has access to money. I don’t.
One question is what will that barrister do, can they attack my credibility?
I ask because my H who is the abuser has said today to barrister and solicitor that I have abused him mentally, physically and emotionally for 15 years. I have not.
I am in a controlling coercive marriage. I have been assaulted (2x cautions for assault)
I have been raped. I have been intimidated. Last week I have video of my son saying his father hurt him which I took to school and a multi agency strategy meeting followed with involvement from police and social services. There was not enough evidence for the police.
Everything that H does is just on that balance of oh well could it have been an accident.
I heard him telling the solicitor and barrister that I am a functioning alcoholic drinking two bottles of wine a day. Not true. That I had an illness due to excess drinking. Not true. He told of a physical fight between me and my child which resulted in dc being pushed through a door and the door being smashed. Didn’t happen. Door was broken for a different reason not child related. He tells them that I am mentally unwell, need to get psychological help and I “have demons” I don’t and have for my own well being seem a councillor privately for 15 months.
He has had a breakdown. Is unstable - but thinks he’s fine. Doesn’t engage in regular sessions with either his psychotherapist or his psychologist.
I shouldn’t be surprised I know but I am. He is painting me as truly evil. He’s lying about everything, anything where there is a grain of truth is being twisted and manipulated. He’s painting himself as the hero, swooping in to marry this damaged girl, marrying her trying to save her. I heard him tell the solicitor that he’s just too nice. Apparently he has pictures of the content of my fridge which has alcohol in it.
I have been trying to divorce him for two years. First year gently encouraging and second year legally but I had to pause because I was terrified of what might happen. But then in Sept the children went back to school it’s been going forward as much as I can. Three older teens and a primary school child.
I’ve spoken to solicitor but I would really like your advice or support or tips if you have been through this situation. How many hearings did you have. Did your h have a barrister? Did they attack you? Anything really as I’m shocked at the way he’s playing this out and just need help.