Pension sharing

[Thetrees]

I'm really confused about this. H and I have agreed we will split the pension I accrued while we were married 50/50.

I have two, worth £90k and £12k. His is worth c£20k

My pension fund requires that I have taken advice from an ifa, who have passed me on to a specialist who will charge £2k for this advice and who will calculate our respective incomes (I think)

I'm worried that they will advise that he should receive more than 50% as he is older than me (mid 50s vs late 40s)

Is that a possibility? We agreed 50% on the basis of me buying him out of the house

They’re not big pots.

We paid a £1k for a forensic pension analysis. Worth it.

But my ex’s pension was >£500k

I know, they're really not and it feels like a really disproportionate cost

My mum paid £2k for an actuary to check them - she was older than my dad and got about 76%