I am divorced!

[LookingUpIn21]

It happened officially on Friday, but I didn't find out until today.

I am free of the abusive bastarding bastard!

I can change my name back!

I am no longer anyone's wife!

Tonight it's wine and pizza and feeling free.

It's been a grueling time for me, these past few years, on top of Covid. This is a ray of sunshine for sure.

Just wanted to share! (want to scream it from the rooftops, really, but this will do!)

Oh I am not on good terms with the ex - he is an abusive dickhead, unfortunately. The best I can hope for, at some point, is him stopping trying to manipulate me via the DC.

I left exh to file, although I could have done it straight away as we split due to DV. When he finally got around to it, he listed several bullshit reasons for the breakdown of the marriage (not once mentioning him being a wife beater, funnily enough), but I accepted the paperwork on the grounds that I did not accept his reasons. This felt like the simplest solution - divorce filed end of August, decree nisi was beginning of December, and six weeks later he filed for absolute. That went through after another week.

I've heard a lot of people have had their divorces delayed, but once the ball started rolling it happened fairly quickly.

The only sticking point for me is that we haven't settled finances yet, but there's not a huge pension to argue over or anything, as he has always been shit with money and only recently started paying into a pension.

I'm so sorry you went through that, lookingup, but well done getting out! That is quite amazing really. So many women don't, and they get increasingly ground down.
Finances was definitely the sticking point for me as STBXH didn't want to let go of half his pension. The court finally sorted it out.
It's taken 2.5 years for us and probably another month til decree absolute.
Will be such a weight off my shoulders when it goes through.

Thank you! Yes, the statistics are something like 35 assaults before a woman is able to leave. It's very hard indeed.

I'm glad you are almost there! Worth it to be divorced properly with finances agreed fairly.