It's been over for years. Basically still living together for the kids (12 &17) it's hell, I'm so ill because of it all with anxiety and depression. There's been no light at the end of the tunnel for years. I've been a SAHM for far to long, had all my confidence drained from me. No qualifications. No idea how I could work because of how ill I feel. We've had separate rooms for 7 years at least. I got sick of the sofa and temporary beds over the years I've just bought myself a 'real' bed. Husband pays for everything, I do cooking, shopping and house stuff, but it is a real struggle because of how I'm feeling, he just sees me as fat and lazy when in fact this is the best I can do! If I look into a job he gets shitty if it means he might have to cook or do something I normally do, he drags me down so low. I have about £20k left in savings from when a parent died. I've been using this to pay for shopping and stuff for the kids plus finally my own proper bed. It won't last forever. He won't give me any money, before the inheritance I'd have to justify every penny I needed from him. I'm completely trapped in this situation, no family or friends, he won't leave mainly because of money and I can't afford anything long term. Plus I'm so on edge I don't know if I could cope with any big changes. We have a joint mortgage. He has savings.
Is there anything I can claim other than insanity?!