Divorce/only child

[Loracina]

Hi everyone, I don't have a question as such but would be great to get other people's thoughts and experiences on this.

My little boy is 5 and me and his dad are on the final stages of divorce. Whilst I know this is the right thing to do, I can't help but feel so sad at the thought of not having another child and giving my son a sibling. I know he would absolutely love to be a big brother and he is so caring ❤️ and I would love to have had a bigger family.

There isn't much I can do about it, so I guess I'm just getting my feelings out in the open.

Anyone else has been through this and can remind me that it will be ok? :)

Thank you x

My DC won't be getting a sibling either - similar situation. I started to feel a bit guilty. But then DC said "I want a big sister" at which point I realised there REALLY wasn't much I could do about that one, so I stopped feeling bad.

I do sometimes feel a bit of sadness for both of us (both me and DC) as I would've quite liked to have two children too - but not with my ex. So I have to just reassure myself that I've (definitely!) done the right thing and try not to worry/think about it.

Not sure if that's helpful OP, but it's my perspective.

Hope you're doing ok generally x

My son loves being an only child (technically he has half sibs, butvthey were adults when he was born.,)

He was horrified when I asked if he'd have liked a sibling.

Thank you, I know having a second child with my husband would be the worst thing I could do! I guess it is just sad that it hasn't worked out.

Thank you for replying, it always helps to be reminded ;)

My DS (7) is an only one too and I'm recently divorced so that's the way it will stay. He is lovely and caring and loves babies, I know he'd be a brilliant big brother. But that's not to be - instead, I'm looking at the advantages. I definitely feel that DS and I have a stronger bond because it's just the two of us, we go out walking together, we choose what suits us, I feel like he's my little team mate in life, we chat ("I love it when it's just you and me, we chitter chatter, don't we mummy").
This is not how I planned my life, nor his, but it is what we have got. I do think I had to go through a sort of grief for the future children I'll never have, and for the family unit I lost. It's ok to be sad about that. Be kind to yourself.

Thank you so much, that is really helpful! ❤️