Divorce

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Hi,
My partner is currently going through a divorce. He has two children aged 8 and 12. He was married for 6 years approx. and has been separated for about 5 years. His ex started the divorce and applied for financial orders. They do not have any asset or property and it looks like it is only his pension that is up for discussion although she may think she will get spousal maintenance on top of the child maintenance he pays through CMS. It was ordered at the decree nisi stage that he pays her divorce costs which at the time was only £160 towards the divorce application fee. She has spoken about mediation weeks ago but she has not contacted him further about this. He is currently going through the court process to secure access as his arranged access was being cancelled/reduced.

Where does that leave us...what can we do, if anything?

What do you want to do ?

Is he a high earner OP? How come they were together for so many years but no assets? I think a bit more detail is needed if you want help. Sorry.

They didn't own a property and after her affair, he left the house with everything in it for her and the children. She had a Daughter before they got together and so has only ever worked part time.

He is on 47k per year.

There is no way she will get spousal support with his salary.

Can he arrange the mediation himself?

He tried and was told she has already contacted a mediator but that was weeks ago and he hasn't heard anything. I guess his options are to either wait for her to arrange it or go to a MIAM session himself and then apply to the court.

I don’t understand what it is you’re actually asking here.
She’s not going to get spousal support, but could well get a share of his pension pot.

Nothing now as he has been informed of his options as explained in my previous message. Thanks

So. He asks which mediator she contacted and rings them to kick start the Miam.

But to be fair it's been half term and I can imagine that life Admin like this has got pushed to one side whilst caring for therir children.

Maybe she got a shock when she realised how much a miam costs. Maybe she's needed space to look at her finances and figure this out.

He needs to be proactive too.
Miam and mediation will save ££s in court costs.

Can he contact and tell her he's happy to pay half the remaining legal costs.

Is he up to date with his Child maintenance? At at least the minimum level the cms calculator suggests?

He needs to be proactive here. It's good tho that he's wanting to see his kid more - so long as he's putting their needs first.

Hi,
I’m currently very unhappy in my relationship. He’s a nice man but I just don’t love him anymore. We have 2 children 14 and 12 and our first was born within 2 and half years off us meeting. We have been married for 8 years. I packed in work to look after kids and a few years ago I got part time job that isn’t particularly well paid. My husband is the main breadwinner he has a really good job on around 80k.
We have a mortgage which I certainly could afford to pay on my own. I’m not even sure I could continue living in the area. Obviously this is major decision anyway but can anyone advise me on where I stand financially? I feel that I cannot afford to leave him. My children and I are used to a comfortable lifestyle, this situation will be hard enough for them as it without the upheaval of moving house and leaving their friends. Feeling trapped.