Crazy Potential Divorce Situation or not?

[SadCivilPartnershipDivorce]

We have been civilly partnered for more than 10 years. We see nothing high earners, own rental property some together 1 prior to meeting me and I am not on that mortgage although I pay half the mortgage estate agent fees etc,

We also lived in my country for 20 months during which she dist pull e en 1pence out of her pocket.

She is classic passive aggressive a few during the first 6 days she said only 10 wpids. I don’t hate her or she me, (we haven’t had sex in more than 6 years. Turns to me as we are getting into bed and says “ I keep forgetting to tell you that I now identify as a celibate, asexual non-binary person.

WTF

How do I unravel this complete disaster and come out with 50% plus all of the other ways she financially screwed me..

BUT OST OF ALL PLEASE TELL ME THIS WONT TAKE 2 years!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you

What offers have either of you made so far?

None. They don’t want to be divorced

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Is there an actual divorce from a civil partnership?

Yes you can dissolve a civil partnership, much of the process is like divorce, talking like adults usually helps!

Make her an offer and see what she comes back with then.

@movingonup20 first of all she has mild autism. Secondly as you may imagine the shock of this hasn’t set in. I’m literally just comprehending. Although I am now a British citizen this is not my home country so I’m just figuring out what to do and how. I’m perfectly able to speak like an adult .

@StephenBelafonte I don’t know what you mean by “make her an offer” are you referring to a financial offer? I do not know what her financial picture really looks like, I don’t want to be stuck here for 2 years like I see divorce taking.

And she doesn’t want to end the relationship!

It doesn't make any difference whether she wants to end the relationship or not. Only one person has to want to end the relationship in order for a divorce to proceed.

Yes make her an offer means financially. But before you can do that you both need to disclose your finances so that you know what there is to be divided if that makes sense.

Get legal advice prior to anything. You may wish to speak with an immigration lawyer te your right to remain in the event you get divorced.

@Elieza I have a British passport in my own right. I just don’t some how get done out of circa £600,000

@StephenBelafonte well I have been on furlough going through the year and I was the stupid one putting all basic bonus stock proceeds into what I thought was out only account. A joint account and I believed she did the same but I have come to find out that she has a secret savings a account which is significant. We have 2 properties together and that’s where all the money is.

I don’t want to hurt this person or have to force the sale of our residential home because she absolutely adores it and it’s 1/4 mile from her place of business it feels really painful.

It would be easier if we hated each other

Sorry OP but it could take 2 yrs or more if neither of you actually do anything. You need legal advice and get the ball rolling. Are there any children involved? Sorry, no help, just questions.