Universal credit help

[anewlifeawaits]

Hi.

Not new but name changed for this thread.

I am about to lose a salary along with a lump
Of useless from my home and am trying to navigate the benefit system.

I've been into entitled to and luckily thank god I can get some help but I've seen a lot of posters here having problems with the payment dates as in they don't get their credit one month as it shows as being paid twice in one month so am petrified to open a claim and then be in that situation.

I refuse to rely on dickhead useless lump
To help me financially this month let alone any others as I can foresee him being difficult so want to make sure I've got all bases covered.

Luckily I juggle work the kids the house the household finances and general management of everything around here so he's rendered useless and has been for some time however he's finally out the final nail in the coffin today and I've snapped.

I've had enough. No more. I will not babysit him any longer or spend my life doing things to please him (that crept in slowly) and today I've had my eyes opened.

I've calmly made it clear I want out and the best he can do for his kids is leave and start again somewhere because he's burned his bridges with me.

Currently refusing to leave but I'm sure that will change hopefully when he realises I'm not just saying it because I'm angry. I've been very calm this evening probably because deep down I know this is what I actually want and have wanted for quite some time.

I try and grab the snippets of good times and they kept me going but actually they are little snippets and not enough.
I've told him apart from anything he's done I'm no longer happy due to his ways and it's very wrong of him to expect me to carry on.

We had a trial break a few years ago for about two months and I stupidly rolled over and he moved back in. I'm kicking myself now because really I was finding my feet as a confident women again and doing things I like to do instead of compromising all the time but he swept me away again.

Eyes wide open now.
First thing is to get him to move out without any animosity
I've suggested we tell the dc that we no longer love each other but are still good friends and it's ok as it happens and that it doesn't change him being a dad (not that he's been v involved recently anyway)

I think he was relying on the fact I'd keep quiet and put up because of the dc but actually this time I won't.
I told him earlier there's never a good time in anyone's lives for the home situation to change but I want it to be as calm and adult like as possible for the dc.

I've not asked many questions about what's happened as to be honest I don't actually want to know anymore. It's no longer my problem.
He is no longer my problem.

I'm shocked at how unemotional
I actually am and I think he is too but I think it's because things haven't get
Right for me for a while.
I need this fresh start without me baggage hanging on for dear life

Hi there. With universal credit you have an assessment period. In my case it's 3rd of the month until the 2nd of the following month. I get paid on the 31st. In the 2 years I've been on it I haven't had a problem. I did have an issue when it was a joint claim with the 2 payments in 1 assessment period but it was temporary and was resolved the following month and if you open a new claim you can apply for an advance which you pay back monthly once you start receiving UC which you may already know. I believe UC have taken steps to address this problem but don't know how successful it has been. Don't let it put you off making a claim though. Let me know if you have any more questions.

What's your long term plan OP? Do you work, or will you work? Stay in your own place or need to get another. To be honest, you sound rather caught up in the drama of your relationship, and in achieving a "f**k you" moment with your partner. Getting a reaction from him isn't the priority now.
If you are planning on supporting yourself and your DC from today, you really need to focus more on that and getting on top of your outgoings. Getting by on a little UC isn't fun. The usual advice is to claim UC asap, because it isn't backdated. You are claiming for yourself, not your partner's income, and I doubt you get 2 months salary in one month?

If you get paid on the same date each month you'll be fine. The people who have problems are those who get paid weekly/fortnightly and so can get paid 5 times/3 times in one month.