I'm 50/50 parenting with my narc ex-husband (court ordered) and have been for seven years. We're going through the court process yet again as he wants even more custody (revenge tactic). No money now to buy a house, still renting as spent all on solicitor. My ex remains in the huge family home.
My eldest is now 13 and ASD. The pattern of behaviour is he's always very abusive towards me when I collect him from
his dad's. Says he wants to stay there and calls me a fucking bitch, a whore etc. Ex just stands at the door and says nothing.
Within literally hours of coming home son is lovely again. Polite, wants to be involved in family life, plays and interacts with his half sister etc.
But the night he is due to return to my ex he turns abusive again. I've been called every name under the sun again tonight and been told to fuck off again and again.
My 10 yo is ubserstandably so upset when his brother gets like this. He can't sleep and constantly seeks reassurance from me.
We've had so many professional involved.
Why can't they see what my ex is doing to us? Why won't they stop it?