Telling kids, mutual?

[Lovelymonkeyninetynine]

Hi, I'm just starting this process and feeling very upset and anxious about everything.
When you told the kids what did you tell them? I want for them to maintain a good relationship with their father but also to be honest (in an age appropriate way.)
If you didn't want the split did you say the other parent didn't want to leave? Or best to say it's mutual?
Children are 6 & 8.

Be age appropriately honest. Why be dishonest and the your kids its an amicable joint decission , whilst in real life it was him having an affair (or whatever it was). It doesnt pay off to lie. Actually it could backfire as children could blame you for it all... just be honest op.. hang in there x

*Why be dishonest and TELL your kids

I'd say something simple like sometimes mummies and daddies want to live in different houses, but they will still see them and love them just as much. I don't think blame is appropriate at this age as saying daddy stopped loving mummy may make them think the same thing can happen to them.

Thanks for the input both of you that helps. I think tbh I am happier telling them we both want to live in different homes but will stress that our love for them can't change.
God awful situation, sending hugs to all of you going through it too.