Help working out logistics of trial separation

[Levithecat]

I have asked DH for a trial separation. He is in recovery for alcohol dependency and has poor mental health - I don’t trust that he isn’t drinking and it’s creating a massive strain.

He doesn’t want to do it, and isn’t engaging much with plans so I’m left to suggest things. He wants to see DC every day - I don’t see how that gives us space, but I don’t want to deprive them of their dad, who they adore. I was looking at renting a room Mon-Fri and splitting the week with him (sharing the rental), then being together over the weekend. I’m not sure that’ll give us enough space but it would be better for DC. Will we just be throwing money away on a rental? It’ll be a financial squeeze as it is. What other options haven’t I considered? We don’t have a spare room.

Sorry if this is garbled, I’m finding it hard to work out what’s for the best. Thank you.

I assume you mean a room in a,shared house? I guess if the others in the house were OK with that it could work but would he agree? I'm doing a trial separation and, as its my decision, my husband is saying he isn't going anywhere!

OP you could live there Monday to Friday.

Thanks both. I realised this plan was too messy and not great for our DC, so we have agreed for DH to live away in a flat (not sharing) and then be home two days / one night, while I stay away. Plus perhaps our oldest DS staying with him one night extra. DH needs to focus on his mental health and i think this will work best for all of us. Thanks for the suggestions

Five years ago we did a trial separation as DP would not engage in any kind of relationship counselling (which we desperately needed). DP bought a caravan. He spiralled into depression then started sleeping with someone else. That was not part of the plan! It broke my heart. He's now my ex-DP...
If I had known that would happen I would never have suggested the trial separation. All water under the bridge now though.
I'm not saying the trial was the cause of the affair - but it did give him the opportunity to have one, and sadly he was not strong enough to resist.