Unreasonable behaviour reasons - what did you list?

[twosmallbuttons]

I'm going to apply through the .Gov site after New Year, so want to get my reasons and wording watertight. I read elsewhere that the reasons for unreasonable behaviour need to be listed in a certain way (eg dated, or at least when the behaviour started).
What reasons did you cite?
Did your Ex accept the reasons or want to contest?

I should add that I've been unhappy for years, suffered depression after DC were born but only recently had a grand realisation that it was mostly down to DH's behaviour that I was feeling this way. Elements of controlling, emotional abuse, shifting blame, me walking on egg shells for so long that we barely communicate any more past what's needed to look after the DC and run the house. We've been sleeping in separate rooms for over 2 years, no sex life for even longer.

I've read that the courts take the time scale of 'unreasonable behaviour' into account - ie the longer I've been putting up with it, the less likely they will grant the divorce petition.
The most recent incident was probably 3 months ago when he spoke to me again in such a way that left me in tears (in front of the DC) and which then pushed me to make the decision to divorce finally.

I don't want to aggravate him with the reasons I cite, but equally I want to give it my best shot. Any advice?

I've no helpful advice but have been wondering the same. Google has given me a few ideas but I'm thinking of consulting a solicitor for advice - maybe they'll help with wording as part of free initial consultation, who knows..

I cited dh not contributing financially - claiming we were skint resulting in me borrowing from family.
Repeatedly threatening to leave.
Verbally abusive..
Was verbally aggressive to the dc and the ddog.
Abusing alcohol and sleeping tablets.. Exh accepted all allegations..

@waveygravy

I've no helpful advice but have been wondering the same. Google has given me a few ideas but I'm thinking of consulting a solicitor for advice - maybe they'll help with wording as part of free initial consultation, who knows..

Yes I have wondered if a solicitor would be the best way to go. But it seems a lot of money for a few words! I'm just a bit worried that some of my reasons won't be considered 'big' enough.

I'm sure there is a post about this already and some legal bods gave god advice

Just bumped it for you

@RandomMess

Just bumped it for you

Thank you!

Lack of emotional support was one my solicitor said would be more than acceptable