Exh has got the sack during divorce proceedings.

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Hi all. Need some advice please. Final hearing in March 2021. Exh’s solicitor has informed a credible source that exh has been dismissed from his job. Exh was due to retire in 2 years time after 27 years in a public sector job. I feel that I need proof.
The financials are nowhere near sorted. My past solicitor ( I’m now LiP) had advised exh to not apply for the Decree Absolute until the finances were done. The advice was ignored. Exh wants the house sold and split 50:50 and a share of my pension in his favour. He petitioned for divorce after he turned his abuse towards me into alleged abuse from me towards him, (DARVO) without proof.
I don’t agree with the letter of instruction because exh’s main pension has remained undisclosed. I cannot make an informed choice. Judge at FDR suggested that house be sold after youngest finishes uni in 2 years time.
Does anyone know what might happen with the proceedings now that exh has been sacked from his job?
I have run out of guesses.

I've got a civil service pension, none of them are final salary these days, they're average salary and even though we contribute, there is no "pension pot", it's not invested on our behalf or held for us, it is just a promise that it will be paid by the government of the day out of general taxation.

But I dunno how other public sector pensions work and whether they are the same as the civil service pension scheme.

Ah, looks like the CSPS will work out the equivalent cash amount. Don't mind me!

The whole pension thing is mind blowing.All exh knows is that he wants a share of mine in his favour and all I know is that it’s not going to happen without him revealing his and even then!

Good for you op. Keep in fighting him, he's trying to bully you into a settlement that isn't right or fair

I certainly will lilylongjohn. I’ve handed in my life on paper via the form e and exh’s questionnaire only to not have it reciprocated.
I’ve done my best.

Don't assume he doesn't want to tell you what his pension is worth, I just got my pension statement from NHS pensions to work out if I have a tax liability.......

.... I asked for it in 2018....

FixTheBone
Noooooo!

My understanding is if you are going 50-50 then everything is 50-50 including pensions. In our case, I've got more house but less pensions but overall it adds up to 50-50. You can't go 50-50 and then demand someone pays you 60% of their pension for example, that's not how it works.

@Elieza

Don’t get your hopes up re his pension. I too have worked in the public sector for that amount of time and mine is apparently just under a grand a month if I retire aged 60.

We don’t get told what our total pot is worth. We get told what we will get annually. And a lump sum if we have that (optional).

You do if you ask the Pensions Agency for a CETV value (for divorce purposes).

He will be forced to get the statements there is a yearly one .But if his difficult as it seems he is this will be at a court hearing as mine was because he wouldn’t declare anything,
Then more information is also requested .
Do not sign anything

Happy New Year to All!

Thank you Palaver 1.
On Monday I will send off my email asking for his solicitor for his pension details telling them that no signing/ agreement will be taking place until I have formal documentation of his pension(s).
I am also asking for proof of his dismissal.
If and when his pensions are revealed, the letter of instruction to the pensions expert will need to be redrafted to re calculate the sharing of assets in both our interests.
I will not be signing.

How long have you been married?
I was told that it was only the pension accrued during the length of the marriage that was taken into account, not before.

24 years.

Ahhh a long time.
Hope you get it sorted soon. X

Has an actuary looked at the pensions ? My mum had to get one to make sure they both got equal amounts