Tier 4 lockdown - CAO

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Hi, I think my ex is trying to stop contact with our son due to Tier 4 restrictions. I had my final hearing on Wednesday and now have a child arrangements order. I saw him for the first time in almost seven months on Saturday which was also the day tier 4 restrictions were ordered to be put in place . Its been hell getting this far and now I am waiting for her to give her excuse as to why I can't see him. I only see him for one hour every Saturday at the moment. I have informed her that nothing has changed since the first lockdown and parents can still see there children . I take him to the park which is close so I'm not moving him around.

What happens if she chooses to ignore government guidelines and breachs the court order?

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Hi, I think my ex is trying to stop contact with our son due to Tier 4 restrictions. I had my final hearing on Wednesday and now have a child arrangements order. I saw him for the first time in almost seven months on Saturday which was also the day tier 4 restrictions were ordered to be put in place . Its been hell getting this far and now I am waiting for her to give her excuse as to why I can't see him. I only see him for one hour every Saturday at the moment. I have informed her that nothing has changed since the first lockdown and parents can still see there children . I take him to the park which is close so I'm not moving him around.

What happens if she chooses to ignore government guidelines and breachs the court order?

Thank you for reading my post

Didn’t want to ignore .Well done for getting this far.
If at all possible please try to rebuild your relationship with her.
This if it can be done will allow you to discuss on issues that concern .
Your child obviously this might take some time.
If I were you I would get a mail or letter to her in a polite manner stating what’s been agreed reassuring her of how mindful you are .
Of course she might say she has concerns about Covid and infact if he does catch it it will be her duty to isolate with him for a period of time .

So lots of factors have to be thought through.
I hope you can both work this out for the sake of your child.

Children can travel between parents for contact.

If the mother stops contact you need to take her back to court to enforce the order (it costs £115 & you can represent yourself).

The earlier you nip this in the bud the better. My OH went through 3 years of this and using the kids as pawns & to control. On the 3rd court appearance for breaking the CO order she was threatened by the judge of having the children removed from her.

Good luck.

Hi, I spoke to her last night and she agreed that the court order said contact would place in the community. The court agreed that I can have him for one hour on a Saturday for a month. She said that means i can't have anyone else around him. This is reason I went to court so she can't control me anymore. She said I should of informed her that my mum would be coming along. She doesn't inform me about who our kids are seeing. She doesn't like my mum or my family and I have no idea why. They all love both our kids. She said we would have to go to court again as she doesn't like the idea of my mum seeing our son but she doesn't have an issue if my mum sees our daughter or my famiy. She said my family are danger to our son but not our daughter. It's all madness and I feel the last seven months of trying to get contact was a waste of time. There is no end!

The mother doesn’t get to dictate or control who you introduce the kids to in your time (just like you can’t dictate who they see in her time).

Her control will only get worse.

Get a clear contact order to stop her control & batshittery.