We both mutually decided to divorce a year ago I went to stay with my family members. As time went on I got an apartment and so did he, we have a son together that spends time between both homes. A week ago I lost my job and couldn't pay any of my bills I asked my friends and family for a loan until I could find work but everyone said that they couldn't help me. I called a majority of the shelter homes and they all said that they were full and that there was a long waiting list. I ended up calling my ex and asking him for help he suggested that I call his grandparents and ask them for a place to stay. I called them and they said yes but an hour later he called back and said that his grandparents agreed that while I'm staying there it will be his responsibility to pay them $500 until I can find work. This caused him to become upset. We started talking on the phone and he started asking questions it started off with him asking if I was married. HUGE MISTAKE. When I said no that opened up a doorway for him to start talking inappropriately.
The next day we met face to face and the conversation went like this:
Ex: "Well since your not married...you're going to have to give me something because I'm paying $500 for you to have a place to stay"
I didn't reply I ignored it and changed the subject.
The conversation went on to him saying "I never paid for a woman to have a place to live at unless I was in a relationship with her" Again I ignored it.
So he pushed it a little further saying "The next time that I see you I will expect a Thank You hug and you have to agree to it because I'm doing you this favor"
I said "No, just because you're paying $500 to keep a roof over my head that doesn't mean I owe you anything"
My comment was ignored and he said "Don't you think that we should get back together?"
I said "No we should not"
But the subject kept being pressed on with him saying "Something has to happen...." I said "So what you're saying is I have to "be" with you in order to have a place to stay?" he said "I just for a little while, all you have to do is say yes and agree" After putting my foot down firmly and telling him no he went on to say "I was never going to be with you in the first place! I have a girlfriend! I just wanted you to say yes just to make me feel better. I'm stressed out that I have to pay $500 and I just needed comfort. You could have said yes to make me de better" Now I feel like I'm going to have to walk on eggshells the whole time that I am at his grandparents house. I don't know what to expect from him. I'm caught between needing a place to stay and him wanting to be with me because he feels like I owe him.