How to handle moving day?

[Febo24]

Hi!

My STBXH is moving to a rented house over the holidays.

Can you share with me your thoughts or experiences of moving day?

Although it's the right thing to do, we will all be upset. I'm aware that I'll have to 'recalibrate' the house once he takes his stuff, and he'll have to set his house up. I'm just not sure what to do with the kids (6&8).

We're going to see what they want to do as well, but either way we might just have to ask grandparents to spirit them away for the day while we sort everything out.

I'm dreading it, but also looking forward to finally being able to relax and breathe and move on with my life.

It is a rubbish day but you will get through it and feel great after!
I would send children off with the grandparents and then be there to check what your exh takes and that it is what has been agreed.
Feel your pain but short term pain massively long term gain.

No experience of this just yet- stb ex is moving out on 4th Jan or soon after. I am actually looking forward to that... We don’t have anywhere to send kids to for the day so i’ll probably take them out somewhere whilst he does packing.
I plan to do mundane things that are comforting - tidy up, cook a nice dinner. Make a crumble cake for me and kids and give them lots of attention. Maybe i’ll grt some lego so we all can build it. Once kids are in bed i’ll settle down in front of tv with a glass of something to toast a chapter of my life closing. I expect i will feel huge relief but who knows.
Best of luck to you

Thank you.

Luckily the in laws are around so can take them out. I'm keen for him to set up ready for them but also to have time to 'recalibrate' the house here and fill the spaces where he's taken things.

We're going to take their lead a bit, I'm hoping they get excited about their new room and want to stay with him for the night. They're very attached to me so it'll be on a knife edge!

@BaskingMad there is a thread in Relationships 'Life after divorce' with a few of us in the same boat.

Equal dread and looking forward to that first day of freedom.

Maybe it shouldn't just be a day. Massive upset if everything shifts out at once. Maybe work room by room over a 4 day weekend.
Get him in there so he can sleep and eat.
Then get the sitting down and tables chairs stuff
Then the kids rooms.
I think you can both claim from eventual settlement for big stuff you need to set up house. So keep receipts!!!!
You might prefer to get the new hoover now... Tho obviously it depends on current cash flow situation.
Mine took the coffee maker which I muttered about. And the hoover.

It is upsetting. But then it does give you scope to reset the house how you like. Which does then feel empowering... tho it doesn't happen at once. I bought myself an occasional chair in a colour I knew he didn't like and I did.
Focus as you are doing on the kids.