Planning to leave DH. Realistically, I have 4 months to go before I can do it. Preparations have been going on for the last 2 years, seen a solicitor, sorted finances, have enquired about a mortgage. I'm just getting the final ducks in a row.
What worries me in all of this, is DHs ability to adequately care for the DCs. He has no sense of urgency, didn't call an ambulance when DD collapsed a couple of years ago when I was screaming "call 999 call 999" because he was too scared to make the call and doesn't see danger at all.
He grew up in a very rural area, spent his childhood away from view, climbing trees, running through fields, completely idyllic. His parents never really worried about where he was or what he was doing, he wa always safe. He is not at all street wise.
I grew up in the city and a man tried to snatch me when I was 10 years old. Of course, it has made me very aware of danger, particularly as we have 3 girls.
We live in a town, there are fields and shops, buildings, busy roads. An area around half a mile away is more crime prevalent too.
Im probably at the higher end of "protective" but DH is definitely not protective enough. He just hasn't a clue. He needs reminding to hold the 2 year olds hand on a car park. He is completely oblivious to danger.
The also have allergies and he isn't the most attentive or proactive and has made mistakes in the past with foods hesgiven them. He's also not at all nutritionally minded and I discovered that when I went away for a long weekend last year, he gave them chips 4 times. His family have terrible relationships with food and I don't want them being the same. Is there any way I can protect them from this?
Custody is looking like a 4/3 split (with me for 4) and he adores the children and they adore him, he loves his children and I've no doubt, he'll be a hands on father, but he's so irresponsible.
I probably sound like a crazy control freak... but I'm having a last minute panic.
Any advice?