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Half of the bills?is he deluded?

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havecourage8bekind · 12/12/2020 10:23

Hi, after some advice / reassurance really. I left my emotionally abusive STBXH mid November and am currently in a women's refuge with my two DC until next week when I'm moving into a rented property. STBXH emailed me last night saying he wants half of the January bills because he shouldn't be left in the lurch to pay for everything. I told him that I haven't lived (or stepped foot in) the old property since November so why would I pay January's bills? He's had three weeks to hand notice in to his house (it's a RAF house) and start making calls to utility services and hes done nothing at all? He's claiming he's done nothing because he wanted to wait until I had told him a removals van date because he couldn't hand back the house full of stuff. However, he could've handed in notice, handed the keys back at the end of December and I would've removed all stuff before then? I'm so confused!

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momofgirls85 · 15/12/2020 20:54

Hi I hope you get sorted. Random i know but I am on the verge of going to a womens refuge but I am scared I have heard bad things about them. What has it been like for you?

havecourage8bekind · 16/12/2020 11:09

Thanks for the replies. Ignoring it all until new year atleast then il start looking at my options.

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havecourage8bekind · 16/12/2020 11:10

@momofgirls85 best thing I ever did! I declined a place twice before accepting the third time. If there's anything you want to know specifically my inbox is always open. I'm happy to chat with you xx

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TheVanguardSix · 16/12/2020 11:15

Ignore, ignore, ignore!

They're not in your name? Ignore.
Ignore him COMPLETELY. You have no reason to communicate with him right now unless it's him texting to say what time he'll pick up/drop off kids. He can go through legal channels if he needs to contact you.

He doesn't get to tell you what to do anymore... ever again. Flowers
The kids? Yes, within reason. You? Nope. Not at all.

havecourage8bekind · 16/12/2020 11:18

@thevanguardsix thank you for your reply :) I'm glad the overall concencus is to ignore!

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