Fun to look forward to, to keep me going till New Year

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Partner is moving out in New Year, doing Christmas together for kids. Have spent little time apart from them since has the eldest (15) so is going to feel awful when they start staying over there. Whilst he hasn't lived on his own as such he has had the big London job and stayed over so 2/3 nights away a week so used to not seeing the kids. I need some help in the little and big things I can look forward to, to help me get through the next few weeks with him being hateful towards me. I am enjoying the fact that he will have to actually look after a house and even more so do the parenting (cos you know he says he has been and I haven't helped his career by doing it all, he must have a super hero power of Mr Invisible!). What did/do you enjoy......

Not having to talk to someone I don't want to
Having a break from the parenting and yes enjoying knowing that sometimes now he is the person they automatically go to for anything
Eating what I want and when I want
Not arguing
Doing stuff when it needs doing not having him tell me he will do it then not, so having full responsibility which is busier but easier
Buying what I want for the house
Good luck with the next few weeks as that is tough but try not to engage and just see the end of the tunnel

Thank you, yes one of the big ones is definitely making my own decisions again and just getting on with things rather than having to convince him that something needs to happen. I have lived on my own previous to him but a long time ago now so forgotten what I enjoyed about it

If my ex actually bothers coming back, I'm looking forward to the first week he has them in the (post covid) school holiday, so I can go on holiday, alone. I will do exactly what I want for a whole week and no one to wake me up! Thinking about it, I should add the cost into the financial settlement.

@catkins22 oh god, has he not wanted to see the kids? Yes, a blissful week alone sounds like you deserve it