Unreasonable behaviour- emotional abuse, but out of 6 month deadline

[BreathlessCommotion]

I am trying to do my decree nisi. I have been married 12 years and for at least 11 of those stbxh has been emotionally, financially and sexually abusive. I've written about it quite a bit on relationships. Earlier this year I tried to leave/start proceedings, but he convinced me (again!) to try again. We've had counselling over 18 months, and to a certain extent his behaviour has changed. But it is too late for me (and he's only doing it to keep me).

However having started writing everything down for the decree nisi, I realised there is a 6 month time limit for incidents and behaviours. Problem is he's been on his best behaviour and I cna't really think of anything (apart from refusing to go on a holiday that had to be cancelled and being a bit grumpy). The last coercive sex was May 2020, so outside the time line. The last really obvious emotional abuse was 9 months ago.

what do I do in this situation?

The reasons can be quite bland. I used something like "the respondent does not generally support the applicant, causing her distress" and "the respondent no longer socializes with the applicant, causing her to feel lonely and distressed".

I actively avoided mentioning any of his abusive behaviour so that I didn't antagonise him. I still got a decree nisi.

However, he is continuing his control behaviour and won't agree our finances so I can't get a decree absolute yet.

Examples from online

The Respondent prefers to spend time with their pet than the Petitioner.

The Respondent refuses to talk about marital problems.

The Respondent doesn’t give general support to the Petitioner, e.g. with housework.

The Respondent works long hours and is often away from home, leaving the Petitioner to feel stressed and lonely.

The Respondent plays video games for long hours and leaves the Petitioner alone.

www.divorce-online.co.uk/blog/unreasonable-behaviour-divorce/

You can write whatever you want. Is your husband likely to contest it? That may be where issues arise if it's contested

He has said he won't contest and I can write whatever I want. However, despite this I'm aware that seeing some things written down could be quite hard for him to read (even though they are true).

Don’t tell the truth. It doesn’t matter. Just use generic examples as suggested above. Tell him thats what you are doing.