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Want to move a bit far with a child

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Hope4newlife · 22/11/2020 12:28

Hi,

Hope to get some advice on relocation with my child. I am a divorcee and no other family here in the UK. My ex has the child every other weekend and Wednesday.

I solely moved up to the North because of my ex and now we are divorced and he has settled down with another woman very quick and very near by (5minutes away). My child was born in the North and has lived here since.

However, I feel that I have no life here like a prisoner. I cannot leave the country because my child is here. I have tried to move on my life around here but a small community that kinda every knows everyone, lack of income, lack of job opportunities, lack of friends, my greatest fear is of bumping into my ex’s new family especially when they are with my child and I am alone, all his family members, relatives and his friends ( all live within 10 minutes from me) as it’s his hometown and he has lived all his life here.

Even my new date knew my ex when I mentioned so I gave up with him. My child is happy but I am deeply depressed. I want to move back to London. All my friends are there, more and better job opportunities, more lively.

I know my ex won’t agree or allow me to take my child with me. I know the fact that he will take action as soon as I tell him the idea as he did it before prevented me from moving back to my country even though there was no such intention to do so. I only have my child in this world and again I am afraid he would take my last precious thing in the world but I cannot live like this for another decade and a half.

I have read that court will consider ”child’s best interest”. My wish at first was that my child has all the love from mommy and daddy with regular contacts and I have been doing it. However, what if it has a significant impact on one parent’s life? If the court ignores the fact of the individual circumstances, would it not be fair for a suffering parent while another parent has all the benefits?

Has anyone managed to make it?

OP posts:
Swingbin · 22/11/2020 19:44

Can you consider moving somewhere within a reasonable travelling distance? You would obviously prefer a city, are there any big cities under an hour away?

Alys20 · 22/11/2020 20:48

You need legal advice, try and get a free 30 min consultation.

It's about proving that it's in the child's best interests so you will have to be very specific. Job, family /friend support, social opportunities for the child.

MumCat2020 · 01/12/2020 21:31

You are the resident parent, you can argue that you aren't moving overseas so its a compromise, if you offer lots of visits and to share travel and facetime etc then you have a strong case. If you can show a need to move for work, or that you lived there prior to the relationship then that would help. Courts are against parental alienation, if you are saying you want to move but will still prioritise his time as a Dad, then it should be possible

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