Absolute applied for before agreements - help

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My ex is divorcing me.
I've just been advised by email that he's applied for the absolute.
We've made no decisions yet about financial split or even children.
I'm frightened. Whats the worst case now?

Have you seen a solicitor yet? If not advise you do straight away. He can apply before you reach an agreement but it's not in your interest for this to happen, so you really need to get the ball rolling.

This happened to me.

The divorce, the financials and the children are three separate issues. If you are getting divorced anyway what’s the harm in just doing it.

Divorced two years ago. Financials still not sorted (court in January) Back in court about contact with the kids next month

Then I can relax

Can I refuse to sell house until financial split is agreed?

Yes refuse to sell the house. I was petrified this was going to happen. Who is going to make you sell the house unless you have a consent order at the end of discussing finiancials.

How do you agree the equity split without discussing it first. Is he expecting 50/50 without an order? Sit tight and if he wants you out he will have to apply to court

Get legal advice ASAP. A good judge shouldn’t allow the absolute without the financials being in place. But you might not get a good judge.

Yes I would get legal advice ASAP as well. You won’t have the same legal rights as a married couple. If you’re not on the mortgage/mortgage deeds then he could get you out of the house as you would have no right to live there.

You really should get finances sorted first ..trust me on this . Any good lawyer would tell you this

Does he have pensions to be shared? If so, absolute MUST wait and you need a solictor to deal with this under urgency. I mean tomorrow.

www.brethertons.co.uk/site/blog/pensions-and-decree-absolute

See/speak to a solicitor as soon as possible.