Where to start new life?? Help

[momofgirls85]

So I decided in june to leave my childrens dad because I have been unhappy for so long and I felt nothing would ever change.
My kids are 4 and 1 and are my top priority and I do not want to mess them up.
I have been trying to find a suitable house since with no joy.
I am now still wondering what the right choice is for me and my kids.
I moved to his village 6 years ago its lovley but I feel I would be better in my home town as i feel i would struggle to move on staying round here.
He has made things difficult since I said I was leaving and his family have given me a lot of shit over the years.
People tell me the kids will adapt and be fine and I need to make sure I am ok, however I just feel scared of how they will cope and I don't want them to hate me.
My mum is dead and my dad no longer lives in my hometown but doesnr live far, I do have my aunty and a couple of friends there though and my family and friends are scattered everywhere but I do drive.
I do have a few friends in the village I currently live but I do feel it would be hard staying there.
I just feel so scared of the future and the life changing decisions I am about to make and I am just so worried.
Has anyone been in a similar situation?

Not similar situation but just wanted to say that at 4 and especially 1 your kids will be fine. 1 year old wont remember the upheaval and as long as you explain everything in age appropriate terms to 4-year old, he’ll be fine.

Is their dad going to see them still if you move back to home town?

How far away is it? Could your chidren still be able to see their dad regularly, ideally weekly since they are still very young.

Nothing wrong with moving unless it is assistance away that means a lot of travel for your kids or unfrequent time with their dad which at the age of your you hear especially will have a serious impact in their bonding.

My home town is half an hour away from his town.
I just feel it will be hard to move on staying in this town and he will still have control over me and be watching me ect.
I already feel like he checks up on my movements now.
But I also feel the kids love where we live and I worry about how my eldest will adapt.
My eldest starts school next year so I feel this decision needs to be right and final in order to give her the stability of not having to keep moving schools ect.

Move to wherever you feel comfortable, your kids will adapt and will barely notice the difference

Half an hour away sounds perfect! Not too long in the car for drop offs and pick ups but far enough he can't be nosey.

@momofgirls85

My home town is half an hour away from his town. I just feel it will be hard to move on staying in this town and he will still have control over me and be watching me ect. I already feel like he checks up on my movements now. But I also feel the kids love where we live and I worry about how my eldest will adapt. My eldest starts school next year so I feel this decision needs to be right and final in order to give her the stability of not having to keep moving schools ect.

Go home. 100%