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Confused

10 replies

Yourealiar · 02/11/2020 20:44

So my cousin told me she’s moved on from her husband. She said he’s moved out and living with his brother now and although she’s finding it tough with the 2dcs shes realised she’s better off now than when he was around.
Anyway I don’t want to bring it up with her again but my sister who lives in New Zealand says she messages our cousin and In a recent message she spoke as tho the husband is still around, they were talking about cleaning and she said something like “jack cleans the dishes don’t know how many other men do that”.
Do you think my cousin is lying to me or could she just have not used the past tense when talking about it with my sister/it simply came out that way?

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Yourealiar · 02/11/2020 20:48

(My cousin had also told us she’d started divorce proceedings a few months ago)

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Scaryprospects · 02/11/2020 21:13

She might not want everyone discussing her business for a start...

Cressidalamida · 03/11/2020 09:43

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Gloriagardia · 03/11/2020 18:07

That is bizarre tbh.
Will bump for you? What does everyone else think?

BaskingMad · 04/11/2020 00:21

Divorce is complicated. She might not want your sis to know just yet. Is your cousin in NZ as well?
I think she has no reason to lie to you. He still might be around having moved out. I’d leave it and let it play out.

Yourealiar · 04/11/2020 19:33

Ah yea. Might be that she wants to keep up a pretence still as others don’t know yet?

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Scaryprospects · 04/11/2020 20:49

Yes. I’d offer her support not judgement.

I’ve been separated for over a year now and some friends and family are yet to ‘find out’

It’s a very difficult time for all involved

Yourealiar · 04/11/2020 21:09

I don’t get how you can keep it from them (especially family). Won’t they realise he’s not at your side or at certain family events etc

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Scaryprospects · 04/11/2020 22:17

Well for 9 months everyone has been at home so not really.

Divorce can be very difficult even with best intentions to stay amicable. The less outside influencers the better IMO. Everyone works differently

Yourealiar · 04/11/2020 22:21

Yes sorry I meant normally in non lockdown times it would be More difficult I guess.

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