We’re still under same roof but he’s dating...

[somebodyoutthere]

Separated for 7 weeks now but stbexh won’t move to his mum’s. I think he won’t move out because his mum would ask where he’s going three nights a week when he goes to see his new girlfriend. I know how lonely he must be, but do I have to put up with this? He doesn’t know I know. Should I confront him and ask him to leave the house?

We’ve no idea why they broke up or how he’s acting now so no one can jump to any conclusion

Longer term what’s the plan the house ?

@lilmishap

PS you can't 'snoop' in your own house.

Yes, you can. The people involved are separated, the relationship is over. Would you feel entitled to read your child's diary or encroach on a housemate's private space?

Also, to the poster who said the letters were 'sent to the house', they may not have been but, husband appears to have at least been discreet as OP only became aware when she saw the letters.

I won't denigrate OP for reading letters clearly not for her but I would say that, if her and ex need to share the house at the moment then boundaries need to be established for both, for the sake of the children of both.

OP do you mean she wrote actual letters? I've not known anybody do that for 20 years, thats just bizzare!

@StephenBelafonte

OP do you mean she wrote actual letters? I've not known anybody do that for 20 years, thats just bizzare!

Wow.

You are separated, he is single, he can do whatever he wants. He's not bringing her back to your marital home so I cannot really see why you are annoyed with him.
Yes it's been only seven weeks but there's no rule that says you need to wait 10 years to start dating.