Separating - feels unreal/surreal

[Febo24]

Hello!

My husband and I have decided to separate. We're working up to telling families this week and have a plan to bird-nest for a few months from early Nov (have a house lined up).

Question is - is it normal to feel like it's not really happening? Esp as we get on, and are living together (separate rooms).

I keep catching myself out, esp if my mind has been on work and then it all guys me again.

We made the decision together, but I'm definitely the one who's done more thinking about it. He betrayed my trust 3+ months ago on top of an already bumbling asking type relationship.

I feel really responsible though, even though it was me trying for the last 3 months, so I know why it's happening but my mind is playing tricks.

Anyone had similar? Things ended with a whimper not a bang?

Anyone else bricking it going it alone!?!

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I know what you mean. DH and I have decided to separate but, due to Covid and our financial situation, we're still living together. We own a flat that we rent out and the plan was to give the tenant notice and DH would move into it. Because of Covid we have to give the tenant six month's notice. Fair enough, but it means we're stuck together now until April.

Neither of us want to stay angry for the next six months so we're in a weird holding pattern. We're still sleeping in the same bed, though we haven't had sex for years. After building up and getting my head ready to tell the kids, make some changes, I'm feeling a bit numb.

I've been a SAHM for 20 years, married for 28, and I am shitting myself at the thought of going it alone. But I'm excited too. Do you have a support network? I know my friends will be there for me. They've been a huge support in the drama leading up to our decision to separate.