Ideas to heal from seperation

[singlemumagain]

Hi, well it's been 8 months now since I left my abusive husband, I'm a lot better but still healing, still play things over and over in my head. He just threw us away in the end, ripped my heart out and stamped on it. It took courage to leave but I would live to hear ideas to heal what worked for you. It's tough but determined to be strong for my teenage children

If I'm really honest, going back out and dating did wonders for me to 'heal'.
It gave me other things to think about, reaffirmed my self esteem, made me feel wanted and gave me new insights into my abusive exdp's behaviour.
I went from feeling out of control and callously thrown aside to feeling like a desirable, organised woman.

It's probably quite shallow, but being able to see myself through the lens of other new people was very helpful. I think it was good for my dd too (who obviously had no idea I was dating) as she recognised that my interests were returning, I had a bit more bounce in my step and didn't feel as downtrodden. I love that I've been able to demonstrate a modicum of confidence and that while the past still hurts at times, it takes up no time in my general day-to-day thoughts.

(Didn't mean to make it all about me- just using what I've done as an example. But 8 months out is fab. It's a whole new world out there xx)

Well tbh, I have been on a few dates and in some ways it was good as they gave me confidence but in other ways it wasn't good because I knew I didn't want to see them again lol! Too soon for a relationship really but I do know what you mean

Too soon for a relationship, but not too soon to have some fun and speak to (hopefully) interesting people.

I had a few dates where men indulged my love of being boring in museums. There was nary a yawn and they at least pretended to look interested most of the time. I couldn't ask for more

Focusing on my physical and mental health helped. Exercise was for sure one of the main things to help

Hope you are ok. Be kind to yourself x