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Court Order Confusion...

6 replies

MissB19 · 15/10/2020 16:43

Good Afternoon,

I hope someone can help with the following.

I have a Final Court order with my ex and his mother. For them to have my daughter every other weekend. Which is agreeable. I was respondent to this court order.

Within The Final Order hearing my ex tried to get the judge to rule on Christmas, birthdays etc. The Judge stated he wasn't our social worker and we should work this out together.

CAFCASS have been involved due to his drug use and the mother in law alcohol issues. The states they are not to consume any 24 hours prior and during contact.

It is 'Ordered that Special Occasions and holidays should be agreed between parties'

Something we have not done.

We have not been communicating well.

Him and his mother falsely reported me to social services for mental health issues. This was immediately closed by social services and found no ground for concern. Social services advised me to make an harassment log with the police against them. Which I have done.

Simply they do as much as they can to make my life unbearable. But that is personal. I try my hardest not to let that affect my daughter.

We are returning to court soon as I had to make a specific order request to add my surname into my daughters name. I had filed documents prior to the final order hearing but it was seemingly lost within the court system. As such we are returning.

I am the applicant upon this.

My worry is can they bring up other issues with this hearing? such as requesting more time for Christmas, holidays etc. Or will the judge deal with the matter at hand...this being her name change?

It is the same judge who is overseeing the next hearing.

OP posts:
Otter71 · 17/10/2020 21:56

Don't want to read and run but not a lot of knowledge other than that if the hearing is about name change that should be all it is about
Good luck

catkins22 · 18/10/2020 12:40

I would probably try to arrange mediation to resolve the issue of Christmas, birthdays etc.

That way, you are being seen to be proactive so he can't use it against you and the courts like mediation.

Hopefully you could agree in one session, and if he won't participate, you can show you have attempted to resolve the issue.

vilouno · 20/10/2020 13:52

I really don't have the knowledge to help with this but just wanted to say your daughter has one amazing mummy for you to be able/willing to absorb this kind of thing being thrown at you for your daughter to maintain a relationship with her dad :-)

sadwithkiddies · 20/10/2020 20:24

yes they can bring up other issues, and they likely will.
is it really that important to risk it? obviously you were willing not to share a name before...

the judge is likely to ask what you have done to resolve xmas etc already....

Mamadothe · 22/10/2020 22:08

What does he want contact wise over Xmas and holidays etc?

unicornsarereal72 · 23/10/2020 08:19

Would it not be better to get this agreed now. Otherwise it is going to keep happening. What do they propose and what do you propose. And what is the middle ground?

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