Help - decree nisi next week

[REDreader]

Hi everyone

I filed for divorce mid August and I'm scared to curse it by saying it but I'm amazed by how quickly its progressing to far. All the paper work I submitted was emailed and approved by ex within a month and its at court next week for the decree nisi. If its at court next week how soon will I be notified the decree nisi has been issued?

I'm starting to hope that if its through by the end of the month, its possible it'll be done and dusted by the end of the year??? (I will most definitely be applying for my decree absolute within 6 weeks and 1 day). Financially there isn't anything that could cause a delay - we both earn equal amounts, no debt and we don't own property. We have kids but he's more than happy with seeing them once a week (too busy partying and messing around with girls nearly half his age ). I paid for the divorce upfront and doing it directly through HMCTS (no solicitors involved)

Am I daft to think this could actually be over soon? After the shittiest 2 years possible starting 2021 as a 'free divorcee' would be amazing.

Thanks in advance to anyone who replies

@REDreader did you go for the financial order or have you got your absolute already?

@Ohthisisfun All sorted!!! 6 weeks and 1 day after nisi issued (at 3am) the email came through saying I could apply for my absolute. I did this straightaway and by lunchtime I was divorced!! I couldn't believe how quickly it came through. From start to finish 3 months and 3 days!!! (Although years of hell). I didn't go for the financial order. We don't own property or have debt and financially he's been really good (even paid towards my MOT a few weeks ago!). Its made such a difference being 'divorced' and definitely given me some closure. He's still a d**k but he's someone else's problem now (until he moves onto the next one anyway ). Are you ok, how's yours going?

As someone who had a clean break on finances and now dealing with a shitty ex on child order several years down the line.... get that in writing too

You really need to get a financial order, especially of he's getting remarried. At least file Form A in court now to start a claim. If you leave it open and he remarried you'd be up sh*t creek.

Thank you- I will look into it now

@HosannainExcelSheets

You really need to get a financial order, especially of he's getting remarried. At least file Form A in court now to start a claim. If you leave it open and he remarried you'd be up sh*t creek.

Can you get a financial order after getting the decree absolute?

Yes you can it just means you’ve already lost certain marital rights such as claims against each other’s pensions etc

[quote REDreader]**@Ohthisisfun* All sorted!!! 6 weeks and 1 day after nisi issued (at 3am) the email came through saying I could apply for my absolute. I did this straightaway and by lunchtime I was divorced!! I couldn't believe how quickly it came through. From start to finish 3 months and 3 days!!! (Although years of hell). I didn't go for the financial order. We don't own property or have debt and financially he's been really good (even paid towards my MOT a few weeks ago!). Its made such a difference being 'divorced' and definitely given me some closure. He's still a d*k but he's someone else's problem now (until he moves onto the next one anyway ). Are you ok, how's yours going?[/quote]
Wow the decree absolute in a few hours ! I read it was 2 wks. This is good to know.

Definitely consider a clean break order.
They are taking a while to process at the moment though. I'm heartened to hear that the absolute is quick though!

Thanks for advice everyone. I'm going to start the process to protect finances next. At the moment its not an issue (neither of us has anything!) and for my own mental health I needed the closure of the divorce. I'm still shocked how quickly it all went through