Decree Absolute Granted This Afternoon

[FVFrog]

As of 2pm this afternoon I am divorced. It was a long marriage and the divorce was not instigated by me. I feel sad and alone and scared for the future. I want to be alone and not tell anyone in real life for now, but just needed to tell someone. I get on with life and am generally cheerful, I run my own successful business and have lots of supportive friends. But right now I feel sad. It’s really hard to know that for the other party this will be a cause for celebration with their new partner.

You will be ok, you will x

I felt exactly the same and I filed the divorce, however it was because he was cheating.
I thought I’d feel elated when the final paperwork came through but I felt so sad.
A few weeks later it felt much easier and a year later I am so much happier with my new life.
It will get better, I promise you. This is the beginning of a wonderful new future for you .

Oh bless you. That sounds v hard. It will take time but you will be ok. I can see why you feel sad and I think that it is fine to grieve the loss of a long relationship esp if you didn't want this.

Thank you for responding, feels good to just say it out loud as it were

Oh that sounds tough - deep breaths, this is the first day of the rest of your life. You will be fine x

I hear you OP.
Mine was granted a week ago. I don't even think it has sunk in yet, I feel numb and vaguely sad and disconnected from the rest of the world. It was the right thing, XH is an alcoholic and it was me that filed for divorce, but that doesn't mean I was happy to do so, quite the opposite.

I think we just have to allow ourselves to feel what we feel. Time will pass and we'll heal

@Tiddleypops wise words thank you

My absolute came through whilst l was at work. Despite me having been so unhappy for many years and actually feeling like l was now enjoying life, l couldn't stop the tears.

No one get's married thinking they'll divorce. I personally would never have left him despite being so unhappy but he met OW and left me.

I thought I'd be delighted when it came through but l just wanted to lick my wounds and eat chocolate that evening.

The next day, l felt much better.

I have just received my absolute and feel exactly the same. I have put my baby to bed and been overwhelmed with emotion despite me instigating and with good reasons. I feel so sad, disappointed in myself that this was a failure, that i've failed my baby for not giving her a sibling, and that the dream I had is now officially over.
I don't want to tell my friends because I cannot bear hearing them congratulate me when I feel I am in mourning.

I cried when I received mine, even though I'd divorced him as he was cheating and I had a new partner. It wasn't because I still loved him, but it was the end of 20 years, a shared history and the door firmly shutting on what I'd thought would be my future.

You take the time you need, feel sad and just be kind to yourself. You'll come through this, I promise