Dealing with a narc ex and also my partners narc ex

[BeautybyEmma]

Hi

I've been separated from my controlling narc ex for 2 years now, coparenting with him is a nightmare and is made ten times harder by his toxic friendship with my partners narc ex, they conspire together to make our lives a misery and I don't know how much more I can take, please tell me there are other people out there who have to deal with this and can feel my pain, I need to rant to someone who gets it because I don't know anyone else in my situation, thanks!

Can you give us an example? What was the last awful thing they did and when? How old are the kids?

Are they a couple?

I am wondering why he has an intersection with the other ex. Is there a possibility they both think you and your partner cheated ?

They just feed each other information to rile each other up and create conflict so that we're always arguing, they also advise each other on our divorce proceedings to make sure they can both screw us over to maximum effect, it's constant really, mostly my partners ex meddling in my life though and my idiot ex can't see how much trouble she is causing. They're not a couple, I left my husband to be with my partner but my partner was already separated from his ex, she left him.

This sounds more like angry because he was cheated on ex, than narcissistic ex.

@Smallsteps88

This sounds more like angry because he was cheated on ex, than narcissistic ex.

This.

Are there children involved on your partners side? How is she meddling? Are the rows between you and DP or you two and the exes?

I don't think you can really decide if my ex is a narc or not as you know nothing about him, I started the thread to see if there was anyone else going through anything similar so they could relate to my problems 😔

Well no, we can only go on the info you provide....