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Can my DSis make her (emotionally abusive)DH leave their home?

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Crapbags · 22/09/2020 15:21

Hello I’m looking for some advice while waiting for an actual appointment with a solicitor as they are so busy with backed up cases we’ve been told it will be at least a months wait😫

My DSis has been married for 3years she recently brought a property for her and her DH to live in. The mortgage is entirely in her name as her DH has what I think is an IVA? Whereby he could not be named on the mortgage and is not allowed any debt/credit for the next 3 years.

They put down a £30k deposit £10k his £10k hers and £10k her/my DParents.

They have paid approx 3/4 months worth of mortgage payments so far of which he has given her half. She has covered all the other bills as he works freelance and has worked very sporadically for the last year.

He is definitely emotionally abusive towards her and she is just starting to see the light and talking about divorcing him. I’m just looking for advice on where she may stand legally with regard to their property as the mortgage is solely on her name can she ask him to and or make him leave? What kind of claim would he have on the property? It’s 90% mortgage as it’s such a recent purchase there is no equity yet. Would she get away with paying him back the deposit he put in? She has also taken over a credit card debt of approx £7k of his which is still outstanding. I’m guessing she is lumbered with this now it’s in her name?

I hope I’ve covered everything. I know she needs proper legal advice but due to Covid the wait for solicitors appointments is 4-6 weeks and I’m worried if she doesn’t act soon he will coerce her into staying with him again.

I would really appreciate any advice or information any one has who knows about this stuff or Anyone who’s has been through divorce and has any words of wisdom to pass on.

Thank you

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Crapbags · 22/09/2020 21:57

Bumping in the hope an evening crowd may help🤞🏼

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Lalaloveyou2020 · 22/09/2020 22:02

As the marriage is so short and they don't have kids (and presuming they're young enough) she would be able to offer to buy him out for £10k plus whatever he's put in (furniture etc, she might have to go over the £10k). Is there a reason why he can't work or works so sporadically? If he's sick or claiming sick might be a bit more thorny.

Crapbags · 22/09/2020 22:33

Thanks so much for your reply @Lalaloveyou2020 that’s what I was hoping. Nope no actual reason for him to be working so sporadically just he wanted to go freelance and he’s only had a few jobs here and there says it’s due to Covid but I have to say I think it is more likely because he’s just a bit work shy?! He’s got tons of debt and doesn’t seem too keen to try and pay it off in the 4ish years they’ve been together work has always been a bone of contention he’s had on and off jobs but nothing remotely stable to be honest. My DSis on the other hand has a very well paid and stable job which means she is very often bailing him out😖

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ImFree2doasiwant · 22/09/2020 22:37

I say yes, she can. He doesn't own the house, she may need to pay him.off in the event of a divorce, but legally I dobt think she's begin the wrong to change the locks. If she is concerned over repercussions, she could look into a non molestation order, or occupation order (not sure if the latter is applicable with her owning the property)

PlanDeRaccordement · 22/09/2020 22:41

But what is on the property deed? Are they joint tenants or tenants in common or is it in her name only? That’s what really denotes ownership and whether he has a right to remain, not the mortgage loan with the bank.

PlanDeRaccordement · 22/09/2020 22:47

Here is gov.uk website on rights
www.gov.uk/joint-property-ownership
“You can own a property as either ‘joint tenants’ or ‘tenants in common’.

The type of ownership affects what you can do with the property if your relationship with a joint owner breaks down, or if one owner dies.

You can get legal advice from someone who specialises in property.

Joint tenants
As joint tenants (sometimes called ‘beneficial joint tenants’):

you have equal rights to the whole property
the property automatically goes to the other owners if you die
you cannot pass on your ownership of the property in your will
Tenants in common
As tenants in common:

you can own different shares of the property
the property does not automatically go to the other owners if you die
you can pass on your share of the property in your will
Change your type of ownership
You can change from being either:

joint tenants to tenants in common, for example if you divorce or separate and want to leave your share of the property to someone else
tenants in common to joint tenants, for example if you get married and want to have equal rights to the whole property
There’s no fee to do this.

You can also change from sole ownership to tenants in common or joint tenants, for example, if you want to add your partner as joint owner. This is called transferring ownership.

You can find out what type of joint ownership you have by checking documents such as a:

property transfer
property lease
trust deed, also known as a ‘declaration of trust’ (a document stating an owner’s share in a jointly owned property)
A solicitor, conveyancer or legal executive can help you check what type of joint ownership you have if you’re unsure.“

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