Please bear with me
I've been married for 11 years, together 23. We have a 6 year old.
Husband is perfect, couldn't do enough for me, great father, provider.
I have a lot of love for him, just don't love him in that way anymore. We are best friends, we can have a meal, watch the tv, go for a drink, have a laugh. The romantic side has just gone for me but unfortunately not for him.
There has been no sexual contact for a couple of months now however hubby is trying hard with affection.
I have told him 2 weeks ago that I would like some space on my own, this caused a horrendous argument and alot of tears.
Agreed to leave it a few weeks to calm down and we would see where we are.
A couple of weeks later, all I can think of is moving out and living alone
I work school hours (30 a week) and earn around £1100.00 a month.
I can rent a house for around £700.00 where I live that would allow me to keep my job and child in the same school.
Hubby has a good job around £50k a year.
I've calculated my outgoings and would just be short every month on my salary for all the bills and food.
Hubby & I would go 50/50 on childcare so nothing to be paid from either side there
Would I be entitled to universal credit? Never claimed benefits in my life and have no idea how to go about it. Hubby seemed to think I wouldn't be able to cope on my own with my salary and it turns out he is right.
We would obviously sell our house and I would have some equity from that, however that's going to take time.
I have emailed my local CAB however they will not speak to me over email, it has to be via phone. With current restrictions, everyone working from home that phone call is not possible.
Also any advice on how to tell him it's over? I have tried once with a huge row.
I feel i'm going to have to be harsh & firm in my approach, however when it is just one side that wants the separation it's difficult. Last time I mentioned hubby cried and cried.
Any advice would be appreciated.