Posted 9 hours ago
I split with my husband 6 months ago after 17 years together. I left him due to the fact he had slept with my best friend a few years prior which I forgave him for at the time but just never felt the same and eventually lost all feelings for him and he was awful with money. 2 weeks after we split he moved out of the family home. 2 weeks on from moving out he became in a relationship with another woman. I was totally accepting of this and allowed him to introduce my children to him and I am happy for him, he even told me how he had discussed marriage, children and moving in with this girl 3 months into their relationship. He works 9-5 mon to fri and i work one in 3 long days so between him my mum and his mum we manage the kids. I have main custody with one week having them for 4 days and the other two weeks 3 days and continuing. A month after he left he told me that he wanted me to take the blame for adultery to push divorce through and take out a loan to pay off the car and sofas that which were in his name. I have saved and paid car and continue to save to pay off sofas. Which I should do soon. He also argued that he wanted 50/50 custody of kids saying he was going to get a 2 week on 2 week off job and proposing he had them his 2 weeks off i believe this is because he doesnt want to pay maintainence as this would mean he would have his kids or be in work and have no life when he has very much been enjoying his spare time with new partner, since that he commented how my children just want to be at home near their friends, my kids don't get on with his new partners daughters and that he wants to move to be about half an hour away with his new partner which is away from my girls school. He also became awkward over pushing me to sell the house even though he agreed I could stay for a year (this has blown over now). So I have recently got into a relationship with a work colleague whom I've been friends with for years. He left his wife 4 months after I left my husband and his wife was convinced that we had been having an affair and contacted my husband who messaged me telling me he wouldnt be happy if I was with him and if I ever was we must of been having an affair and he would turn up at our work etc. Although we weren't and were always good friends we have now become involved 2 months on from the accusations and i now have to tell my ex husband and im worrying myself sick about his reaction. That he will become awkward about the house, the kids and make our lives hell...what should I do???