Hi
Already posted on other threads - me and OH are separating - been married 23 years and for most of that time when the kids were young I was a full time mum but did have a part time job when my youngest started school which all lowed me to drop off/collect every day and run a house. Hubby worked full time. Kids not so much are now 16 and 19.
I got into debt a 3 years ago which I regret so much and when he found out he went mental, forced me to get a full time job and I had to complete spreadsheets for meals for the week, weekly spending, checked my bank account every 4 days. This sent me into a spiral of depression where I actually contemplated suicide. Anyway I eventually got a loan too repay the debt and its due to be paid off in 2 months.
Now we are separating he is moaning at the kids that he feels betrayed and there was no trust and hes not happy that I am entitled to half of everything including his pension. I have a pension from a job I had pre marriage CETV 118k which he is entitled to half of 80%.
His pension will be worth around 400k.
I am hurt, crying, frustrated. I don't know what to do. He is making me feel like a sponger. He is now trying to tell the kids that he is sad so they will stay with him. Hes been controlling, moody, verbally abusive all through our marriage.
Don't know what I am looking for here - just needed to rant.
Thanks for reading