Will it get easier?

[Heartbroken76]

Hi im looking for some happy stories if there are any! My ex husband left me over a year ago and applied for divorce straight away. A few weeks after he moved out I found out he had been cheating on me and they rented a house together. They are still together today and bought a house before Christmas. It’s a big house in an expensive area and I am in the family home but it is a dump compared to what he is living in now. I can’t afford to decorate it I can barely pay the bills and I am thinking of asking to sell it after Christmas so I can move on with my life and not have to rely on my ex for child maintenance. I admit I caused some trouble for them when he moved in with her but I was heart broken and had a hard time accepting it was over. I can’t move on and im hoping for some happy stories or for anyone who is going through the same thing it would be nice to hear from you

Yes, it absolutely will get easier. Comparing what you have with what he has never goes well. As hard as it is you have to try to avoid those kind of thoughts. I had similar thoughts myself but it was a car rather than a house. Sometimes though we just need to get these things out of our system and form some tough thinking strategies to make us see the reality. Why can't you move on? What is holding you back? Was he leaving planned or did it happen quickly? Sorry if that is too many questions.

You’re right. It’s hard to move on because I have been left struggling while he seems happy and comfortable financially.

My ex leaving was a big shock, I didn’t see it coming and then he wouldn’t give me the time of day to talk about things.

I’m sorry it happened to you. It felt like the rug was ripped from under me, I know how much it would of hurt you

Thanks op. It was a shock for me too, although I must have seen it coming. I knew very early on about the cheating so for me I couldn't move on from that. It didn't stop it hurting though. If he appears to be happy and financially comfortable, this maybe the case or not, but it matters more about you, so any thoughts you've been having need to come back to your needs and wants and things that are going to make you happy.