Finally sad

[cheerup]

15 months after I discovered his cheating and we separated and nearly a year after he moved out, I'm feeling sad about the end of my marriage.

Nothing he has done since suggests separation was the wrong decision and we will be getting divorced but I feel like a wave of sadness and despondency has just hit me.

17 years of my life - shared experience, memories, children - spent with someone with whom I now communicate with solely by WhatsApp.

I don't want him back but I miss what I thought we had and not sure I'll ever trust enough again to try to build it with someone else.

@cheerup You're allowed to be sad. It is a chapter closing and I'm sure there were good times.
You sound well balanced, knowing it's the right thing. Let yourself mourn the loss and your head will start to clear.

After that: big congratulations on moving forward! You will trust again, just give yourself a bit of time

It is a sad time, you almost need to grieve it I think, especially after so long in a marriage. It does get better though if that's any consolation.