Seperation

[Millshake01]

I told my husband about 6 weeks ago that our marriage is over. He was shocked to say the least. We sleep in separate beds. Do absolutely nothing together and barely talk to each other so I really don’t get why he was so shocked.
At first he was angry calling me vile and saying how will I cope financially without him. Then he got upset. He wore me down so I agreed to try again but knowing deep down it’s definitely over. We have slipped back into the same routine as before. He’s brushing it all under the carpet and blaming it on the menopause!!
I am so unhappy. I need to approach him again to say he needs to move out but I know he will behave in an awful way again.
Any advice pls!

Hi,I've just done a new thread on the on the one below but just spotted this one. Ask yourself- was it the way he reacted that wore you down? If he had been in agreement would you have been ok with the decision then?
It sounds like you have made your mind up but I can understand that his reaction might have made you thought twice. But.....splitting up does mean tough times ahead. You cannot put his response before your own happiness. I went back and forth over 2 years about what I should do then just decided to go forth. Is it possible to have a trial separation? If he moved out I bet you you would become way more stronger in your decision and you will then get the chance to see if you are happier without him.

@sarahonss1

Hi,I've just done a new thread on the on the one below but just spotted this one. Ask yourself- was it the way he reacted that wore you down? If he had been in agreement would you have been ok with the decision then? It sounds like you have made your mind up but I can understand that his reaction might have made you thought twice. But.....splitting up does mean tough times ahead. You cannot put his response before your own happiness. I went back and forth over 2 years about what I should do then just decided to go forth. Is it possible to have a trial separation? If he moved out I bet you you would become way more stronger in your decision and you will then get the chance to see if you are happier without him.

Hi I'm mentally worn down. I just wish he would go! He knows deep down our marriage has been over for a long time. He behaved little an adolescent teenager when I said I want you to move out. It seems he's happy to just plod along but I'm not happy to do that! His stubbornness is affecting us all. I have older children still at home and also a 7 year old. He involved the older kids which infuriated me. He sulks and is generally a very difficult man. I need to get the strength to tell him again he needs to leave.

I bet you are drained. It's one big negative drain. How does it stand with the house? Do you both own it etc? I didn't want to plod on either,and you shouldn't have to. I think you are going to have to stick to your guns and roll with it. It just depends if he's going to be arsey and refuse to leave

@sarahonss1

I bet you are drained. It's one big negative drain. How does it stand with the house? Do you both own it etc? I didn't want to plod on either,and you shouldn't have to. I think you are going to have to stick to your guns and roll with it. It just depends if he's going to be arsey and refuse to leave

No we rent. What is wrong with these men? It's pretty obvious it's over so why the hell don't they just go!! (Just read your post!)