Residency by age of child

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What experience do people have on what degree of residency (e.g. 50:50 shared, weekends only etc.) work best for children of different ages?

Mine are 16, 14, 13 and 10.

Does it work best if ALL children live with the same parent on exactly the same days, or can it work e.g. if younger siblings have fixed days and older ones stay (e.g. eat/sleep) where they like on any given day?

Thanks!

At those ages all but possibly the youngest will be asked where they want to stay. I think it probably works best if the kids all have a permanent residence and a place they visit and if both parents get some time off all kids. Past that there are no rules.

Whilst they are still under 16 I think fixed days are good, over 16 they are more independent and able to make their own arrangements, but should let everyone know in advance - no treating home like a hotel.
At all of those ages they really should have some input into a schedule.

It totally depends on the individual child.

Introverted children are more likely to want one home and regular visits. Same as more anxious children.

Extroverted confident children are more likely to want half care and will value spending time with each parent over the room they sleep in.

Some might be very upset at the prospect of not living with their siblings, others might welcome it.

So really it's a case of talking it through with them.