I have recently found out that my husband has been unfaithful and on online dating sites for years. I am shocked and devastated. I have a 5yr old, a 1yr old and am pregnant. I’ve stayed at home for the past 5 years while my husband has worked long hours including travel and advanced his career. If I was to find a job it would have to fit into school hours (my oldest has some additional needs to needs a parent at home really) and it would be a low paid job.
Despite doing little parenting mon-fri until Covid where he is stuck working from home it sounds like he is wanting to see the children a lot. I am absolutely supportive of them seeing their dad regularly but particularly for my oldest I believe they need one ‘main’ home and caregiver and I will allow access and visits as much as possible rather than trudging from one house to the other. I don’t want to be away from my kids for more than a day 😢 Does anyone have experience of this, are they really likely to award 50/50 despite the fact he has a busy job and I’ll be at home available for school pickup etc?
We are trying to sell our house anyway but having no luck and he is refusing to leave so I’m stuck with him around which I’m finding stressful. Where is the best place to turn for advice re benefits that I’d be entitled to? I assume I can’t apply for them until we have sold the house?
And at what point should I get a solicitor?