Separated and hit a brick wall

[susie2014]

Hi, I see there are lots of people in a similar situation to me on here so I thought I might be able to get a bit of a pep talk! We agreed to split up back in March - I have suggested that we try and work at things even though I've been unhappy for a while because I think it'd be best for the kids. He's not really interested though so he will move out in a few weeks. I've been ok till now, despite managing the kids full time while struggling to work. I have really hit a brick wall this week though and need someone to tell me some optimistic stories and reignite my fighting spirit! Finding a good divorce lawyer and rebuilding my business while juggling the kids all seems overwhelming - tell me some happy stories about a year or even five years down the line!

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Are you in a similar situation @pigcon1?

No advice as I’m at a similar stage to you. Just 💐 and 🍷 to offer.

Thank you @ChittyChittyBoomBoom it's really hard isn't it. Feel like I've been so strong but I'm a bit broken this week. Have some really important work to sort for Monday so I'm going to have to pull myself together. I'm definitely going to need the money now after all. Have also stupidly arranged a date for tomorrow too and I know that I'm definitely not in that place yet - don't know what I was thinking!

This is me also. We have agreed to divorce 2 month ago. Still living in same house. Waiting to sell. It's awful some days I am OK but yesterday I cried for a large part of the day. The though of this life for months is utterly miserable and like you I feel broken some days. It will get better I feel loads better today. Working form home a looking after the kids awith hardly and help since March doesn't help. I find I can't think straight with the kids here all the time wanting something from me. Hope your OK today x

Hi all, in a similar position too, living together whilst separated since December 19 as he's been in denial but is finally looking at houses and applying for a shared ownership property. Sending you all a big hug, I'm definitely finding it difficult working from home, all kids at home and trying to deal with divorce and helping him move out. Feeling pretty wobbly today but trying to forge on. It will get better for us all and we are strong women 💪 looking forward to when all this is a memory and life is better xx

Hugs to you all too, it sounds like we are all in similar situations. It is really hard at the moment especially with Covid-19 and the kids still being off school. I'm feeling a bit stronger today though. Went on my date - which was just a coffee and pretty disastrous really, I don't think I'm in that place at all. But at least I know that now. It got me out into the city centre for the first time since March which was nice though and I picked up a couple of things in the sale and some nice M & S food as a bit of a treat. I've got this huge project to finish by Monday now anyway so I'll have to keep it together for the next couple of days which is probably a good thing. Hope you're all ok too - as you say @Raver84, it's really difficult to think straight when the kids are with you all the time. And yes hopefully@3gingerboys we'll all be in a much better place this time next year! xx