Changing/making new will after divorce

[karma1979]

Hi all. Was just after some advice as to what arrangements you made in your will after divorce. Like did you give anything to ex to help with raising the kids or put it all in trust for them or something else? Not sure what's the best thing to do. Thanks for replies x

Give the money to the kids but held in trust until they are 18. That way it is for looking after the kids if they still need looking after.

I’m drafting a will under similar circumstances. I’m stating that in the vent of my death, STBXH will get all money - if like him to give up work, focus on kids and give them £15k each at the right time in their lives.
My thinking is, they will need more support than most and DH will need financial security to enable that. You can’t plan for STBXH being a dick, you just have to hope that his best endeavours prevail

Apologies, assumed Ex was a man and spelling / grammar is awful.

I’m half cut on gin after truly shit day with work / STBXH.

Would still give him the money & hope for the best.

Plus haunt him for life if he screwed it up

I've left it in trust until they are 21, controlled by my sisters. I had the choice of 18,21 or 25.

They will also get my death in service pension benefits, flat (for income to sell or live in) & personal possessions.

My ex is crap with money & has been a liar/cheat so cannot rely on him for anything.

We've done it a bit differently here (not UK). Estate left to the children in trust. Life insurance policy taken out with Ex as beneficiary so they get a lump sum to raise the children with if I die. The policy expires when the youngest is 19 I believe. It only costs me about £8 a month. So that way the children would get a lot and ex would manage. But that's the typical setup where I live.

Money to be used for bringing up the kids can still be in a trust for them and released as needed.

I would never leave it all (such as it is) straight to an ex.

Thanks everyone. stbex is fairly well off but also a workaholic. I would hope he would take a sabbatical in the event of my death. Perhaps something I should discuss with him too.@Connellschain I hope today is a better day for you. Your haunting comment did make me laugh