hi, I am looking for some advice. I'm 31 and my husband is 30. We have 3 children together son aged 14 and 2 daughters aged 12 and 9. We have been together since I was 15. We have been married for 9 years this september. We have had our rocky times and short splits when we were younger but nothing since marriage. We have gone through giving birth to our still born son 6 years ago and me developing a serious illness and almost dying numerous times, family deaths and just about every test a couple can have. I love him very much but I have recently found myself not in love with him anymore. He's not horrible to me, he works hard he's a good husband and I really don't want to hurt him. I've recently gone through a bout of anxiety and psychotherapy which has really put things into perspective for me and what I want for my future.
I haven't a clue how to tell him I want to split and get a divorce. We don't have money behind us and don't have family that one of us could move in with during a split. I would love to come out of this with us having a good friendship and us both finding happiness eventually with other people.
He's a good man and I really don't want to make him feel like he's done anything wrong, I don't want to make him sad or angry but I know these reactions and feelings are going to be inevitable.
Has anyone any advice on the best, kindest possible way I can do this?
Thank you in advance.