I think I need to end it

[Bannerwag66]

As the title says. I love him and I’m in love with him but the fact seems it just doesn’t work.

He has been a nightmare during this period. I know he has worried about his job which is fine but he has not supported me. I have a highly pressured job whereas his is steady and he’s had a lot of time and capability to pull his weight with the house and home schooling. I have done the majority and taken on the pressure.

Tonight summed it when when after he was off today and promised to do school work I have had the do 90% of it and only when I asked about the remainder he did it. He then said it’s up to me to read what needs to be done and when he is in the house I should tell him what 3 or 4 tasks he needs to do. He doesn’t get it.

I don’t know where to start but I need to end it but so scared about the fall out. Surely it’s got to be better then fighting if we just said be friends and that takes the expectation away. My heads all over.

I realise I didn’t ask a question but where do I start. I need to tell him, I just want to sort a practical routine out. I need to distance myself from him otherwise I’ll just be weak but we’ll all be under one roof.

This sounds like a really tricky situation, only you know if you can continue like this or if you need to end the relationship and try to move forwards as friends. Wish I could give you a hug as break ups or considering a break up is mentally so hard.

Is this a division of labour rather than you not getting along? Sounds like there’s still a lot of love. Could you suggest ways he needs to get a grip? Has he any idea you’re feeling like this?

There is love. But trust has broken and yes the division of labour and not getting on is too much. I have to put my child first and I feel I cannot be happy in this set up but then will a love with regret.