Dad wanting more time with LOs during court proceedings

[catkins22]

Hi, ex and I going through court proceedings. We have been referred to mediation. He has more time with our children in the last few months than ever before and is now asking for more time. I expect to influence proceedings as he didn't spend much time with our children before.

I don't want to appear obstructive and the children and I usually have plans at the weekend, his suggestion would affect that and he works weekends. Mediation is due to start it a couple of weeks and another hearing in a month. Is it reasonable of me to suggest we discuss at mediation?

Perfectly reasonable, after all that is the purpose. You will get lots of advice and differing opinion on the correct approach (there is no right/wrong way) but I would encourage you not to forget your relationship and needs during the process. I was so focused on being amicable in the face of such hostility from ex and keeping everybody happy that I forgot to consider my thoughts, feelings and needs. Trust your instincts on what feels right for you/your kids
Good luck