Father's Day

[catkins22]

We have a court hearing coming up soon about our children.

Would you get your little ones something (small) to give to their Dad on Father's Day?

I think I should, for the children.

If your aim is to keep your children happy then do so.

Also tell them to draw cards.

I do the same, and for Christmas.

I spend £10-15 & they write a card.

It's in their best interest to see me & their dad being civil even if he is a lying cheating cunt

Why wouldn’t you do this?
He may be your ex but he’ll always be their dad and the best thing for your kids is two parents who can cooperate. There will be times in their life where they will need both of you.

I have. I’m doing everything I can to show the children that me and their dad can co-parent. Luckily it’s all amicable here even though not my choice.

Xx

I made the decision that it was important to do things for the children so ex always gets a card and small gift for birthday, Xmas and Father’s Day. Despite him being EA to me, and dragging me/the children to court over everything and anything. It’s not about making him feel good but teaching the children that it’s as important to give as to receive.
This is the first year that they have actively discouraged me because he’s not a nice person and he has never reciprocated but I dont care, it’s the “right” thing to do

Yes, you're teaching them how to buy, make or give a gift.

What everyone else said. I am on my way out with DS to get his Dad a present and card. I'd rather give him a dog shit in a box because he is a massive, abusive cunt but I'm not doing this for his benefit. Hope tomorrow goes ok for you

Dogshit tucked down s cheap novelty sock might ge more satisfying?

@shouldbedoing - grow up.

Oh I'm the model of restraint and decency despite a lot of provocation.
MN can be a place to vent.

I think you might be onto something Shouldbe Maybe the supermarkets could start doing a fathers day dog shit range. In socks, in boxes, in jaunty hats... 😁

Actually most Father's Day ranges are shit!

Mother's Day ranges aren't far behind. Especially the price hike.

I'm not.
He sees them rarely and doesn't see this as a problem.
I am not sure that I want to give my children the message that its okay for a father to behave in the way that he does. I want to break the narcissistic, abusive pattern and I want my sons and daughter to grow up knowing that a dad is someone who takes an interest in their childrens' lives, gives them unconditional love and wants to spend time with them. I also want them to know that it is not their fault the he doesn't want them to be involved in his life.
I know this isn't right for everyone, and if the behaviour was just directed at me it would be different, but in my case, my children have been one of the biggest issues.
Father's day is painful.