My husband left the marital home last June, following my discovery of his long affair.
I filed for divorce around September, he didn’t acknowledge receipt and is now claiming her never received them, even though he’s told me he sent it to his solicitor. I’m now in the process of arranging for him to be served.
He won’t discuss anything, other than to throw his toys out of the pram every once in a while to say he’s contacting his solicitor about my refusal to let the children see him (I’m not, they’re teenagers, and he won’t tell them where he lives and lies continually to them so they have blocked him on their phones) , about the house (he’s still got his belongings here and while I appreciate it’s also his house, it’s very upsetting for all of us to see it, it’s been nearly a year now), how he’s ‘supporting’ me but continually threatening to cut off that support (child maintenance, which he’s only just started to pay)
I’m just so, so fed up. I can’t move on, he won’t allow me to put the house up for sale, saying he wants to know where we are and needs to make sure the children are safe?! But in the next breath, threatens to come round, and threatens to stop maintenance.
I’ve applied to court, but it’ll just be adjourned until I can get my nisi, and he won’t sign and I have no idea where he lives. He can’t be served at work because it’s heavily gated and he just wouldn’t come to the gates.
What do I do?
Why won’t he let us move on? One child has developed extreme mental health issues. He knows, he just doesn’t seem to care. He’s moved on with the OW and her child, he just won’t allow us to. I get the usual I’m a crappy mother, I’m abusive, I was a shit wife, he’s going to take the children, he’s going to get me evicted, house repossessed. Im not sure how much longer I can carry on