Can I leave?

[Earlgrey19]

Thinking of divorce but scared I can’t afford it. I’ve been sahm for past 5 years, but I’ve just managed to get a job, though it’s part time (there are few full time jobs in my profession). Salary works out to 18.6k for the 3 days. I might be able to do a bit of private work too, but that is really quite unreliable income. Family home worth about 600k or a bit less, owned outright. No savings or other assets: everything is in the house. Husband earns much more than me. 2 DC, 5 and nearly 3. Please help me with what a way out would look like.

Your in quite a nice position you could sell the house and buy one each outright. If you have joint custody of the children would you be able to go out to work more?

Are you sure there's no savings or pensions? If the house is owned outright and he's a high earner where has his money been going?

Of course you can. The best thing is to talk, keep very civil and explain you have grown apart.

We stayed in the same house for 7 months then he rented nearby. I've chosen to move away and leave him the house in return for maintenance (I still retain ownership). My kids are adults so easier but it's doable. I'm still trying to get a better job but I'm far happier

Thank you, I was worried about how to live off my part time income and support the two kids, but maybe I could find an additional job. I guess I might get some child maintenance if I have them with me more than 50%, but it may be that DH will ask for 50/50 residency.