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How do you deal with his family hating you

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sillycat72 · 05/06/2020 17:15

I went through hell with my now ex husband and his family, the abuse and hatred was awful. I still feel I tried so hard to please everyone. Anyway I escaped just before lockdown I moved out with my kids, been happier here but been ups and downs.
The house is going up for sale but I think it got too much for him, he started drinking, crashed his car, sleeping outside. He went missing and the police rang me, to see if I knew anything. I did text his mum and his brother to let me know he was ok. But his mum ignored me and brother just said I don't want to speak to you. I mean I'm sure they are blaming me for his state of mind, he went like this last year and I helped him through it but obviously this time I just have to step back.
I guess I feel vulnerable knowing they all hate me, there's loads of them plus he has a big group of friends. I moved here to be with him so have very few friends here anyway and no family. They know this and are using it to their advantage. How do I get through this on my own?

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DaisyandIvy · 05/06/2020 17:50

They aren’t your family anymore if he’s your ex husband. I wouldn’t be in contact with them at all. Things won’t change and they will never be pleased. They thrive off all this drama.

Free yourself from this manipulation and abuse and you’ll find yourself much happier. Your children’s family on your exes side can see your children on his weekends.

Are your own family supportive? I’m assuming they don’t live locally. I’d be very keen on moving back towards my own family in that position no matter what my ex thought.

Choose happiness. Make a decision to cut loose from this unhealthy, childish and toxic environment for your own and your children’s sakes.

HTH. Good luck. x

sillycat72 · 05/06/2020 18:32

No I have no intention of contacting them anymore it was only cos ex went missing I wanted to know, just a yes or a no would of been enough. I can't really move my kids 14 and 16 are still at school I can't disrupt them, it's not their fault their stupid mother moved here to be with a man!

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