Lockdown divorce advice please.

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I'm desperate for some advice please. If anyone has gone through this process or is a solicitor I really need some advice. Right before lockdown started I told my husband I wanted a divorce, now we've been in the STBXH together staying in seperate rooms. We both own the house and we've been married 6 yrs but lived together for 3 years and we have a 5yo DC. I have applied for the decree Nissi and I'm currently waiting for a response. He has made my life hell. He demanded that he have 100% custody of our DC but he currently goes out as he pleases. Sometimes he leaves the house for over 24h without letting me know that he's left the house. He has no care for our son and I feel he's a useless father. He feels that because he provides financially, he has done his duty as a father.

I proposed 50/50 custody and he is refusing. He would like to have DC for 4 days pw and me 3pw. I need to leave this house as it's become toxic. Is there a way I can get equity from our house and sort out finances before the decree Nissi? Additionally, I feel the way things are going this could drag to court and I'm worried about funds. Is there a cheap way to go about this process without forking out 200ph to solicitors?

Thank you for your time and thanks in advance for your advice

No advice but only to say this must be extremely frustrating. Keep doing a great job and he is just being a bully.

Thank you for your supportive words, I appreciate it.

I would suggest that you stay put in the house to stop him doing stupid things to it like destroying it inside to decrease its value, but when lockdown has ended go and visit people with your child to avoid your husband making sure you spend each night in the house with your child.

Also as you are the child's primary carer and your child is 6 do not agree to him having 50/50 or him living full-time with your child as it is not in your child's best interests. The family court looks at your child's best interests if the parents can't agree, and changing your child's set up is not fair on your child.

@BeforeIPutOnMyMakeup I feel he in an unfit father. And I would much prefer 100% custody. On one occasion that I left my son in his care, he took him out on his bike while he was running. I got a phone call from someone informing me that they had spotted my DC walking alone on the street. I was frantically looking for him and I found him alone wandering down our street. I was extremely angry, anything could have happened God forbid. When I confornted my STBXH he stated that he assumed I was in the house, so dropped him off and went out on a run. Due to this I asked him to communicate with me, as I have been doing if he needs to leave the house. He did it for a day and has once again stopped and does as he pleases. I feel 100% or 80% custody makes sense, I was trying to be fair.